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Threesome Sex Tips for Women Who Want To Get Started
The Special Joys of Threesome Sex Tips for Women Who Want To Get StartedBy Joan... | PAGE 2 | PAGE 1 | THREESOME SEX TIPS FOR MEN |
The following information has been prepared for ladies who wish to consider adding male - female - male (MFM) sexual pleasures to their sensual life. It is the basic premise of this piece that the reader has already decided to open herself to the pursuit of threesome adventures. I sincerely hope these thoughts will benefit you as you plan ways of bringing about one or more female - male - female (FMF) or MFM threesome experiences for your mutual pleasure.
By the way, it is not my desire to "win converts" to my chosen lifestyle. Rather, it is my hope that readers will open their minds and relationships to the special pleasures and possibilities that threesomes provide.
First: I suggest that you let your primary male partner know that you are now open to, or wish to pursue the addition of one or more people to your shared "recreational sex" experiences. Let him know the kind of fantasies that stimulate you (he and another guy focusing on your pleasure, he and another gal focusing on your pleasure, you giving simultaneous pleasure to him and another guy or gal, you alone with another guy or gal, you and he with more than one other person, etc.).
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MAYBE he has never proposed opening your sex life to the inclusion of others. Maybe it is you who wishes to initiate the idea. In that case, you need to open his mind to things gently. Share in watching X-rated movies which include scenes which reflect what is on your mind. Share in reading Forum or other magazines which feature stories which reflect what is on your mind. When you see such films or read such stories, let him know that they turn you on and watch to see his reactions. Ask him what he thinks of such "recreational sex" experiences.
Once you have "acquiesced" to his promotion of such extra-partner-sex situations... or after you have let him know that the scenes and stories of threesome sex turn you on... you need to watch his responses in the days ahead. Is he really enthusiastic about the new possibilities ahead... or is he now reflecting some second thoughts or potential jealousy.
You may want to talk further about how you will both deal with any potential jealousy that may come up further down the line. You may also wish to make it clear how each of you will communicate with the other about limitations either of you want to impose on your expanded sex life as things develop.
Second: You will want to ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND that the anticipated new experiences you are about to have should be SHARED experiences. Shared between you and your husband, or you and the primary man in your life.
Early on, you will want to determine which of you will identify the potential additional person or people you will invite into your sex life. Will HE bring the extra person or people into your shared bed, or will YOU be the one to identify that person and create the setting to bring that person into your shared sex life.
Maybe you will want to SHARE in creating a "prospect list" or in determining a method of identifying a prospective extra person (or persons), or characteristics desired in that extra person (tall, short, younger, older, married, single, certain physical characteristics, local, non-local, friend, stranger, etc.). Or, he may ask you who you think you would enjoy inviting to join in your expanded sex life. Or, you may prefer to put the burden (opportunity) on him. You may even want to start with some couple -couple action first, so you can both gain a higher level of comfort in the earliest experiences and so you can make some initial contacts with others who have opened their sex lives.
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From my experience, a large part of the fun of MFM and FMF threesomes is the anticipation, the planning, the fantasizing about it in advance with your primary man. I know women who have not actually experienced their first threesome until LONG after having jointly decided that they WOULD DO IT, enjoying the prolonged anticipation and knowledge that "one day" it would actually happen. However, remember that you can fantasize too much. Either or both of you can build expectations too high.
Sometimes it is necessary to postpone that actual first experience due to need for privacy, discretion and anonymity. It may require that you place ads or follow-up ads, or that you travel to another city. It may require the acquisition of a discrete PO box or private voice mail subscription. It may require the both of you, or him alone, doing some initial "interviews," to enhance your shared "comfort level" with a
prospective new guy or gal.
Even if you choose someone who is a close friend of one or both of you, it may take some time setting up the right situation (a shared date, a special dinner, an over-night stay together someplace, etc.) where things can warm up properly.
Third: Think about whether you seek ONE-TIME, TEMPORARY or LONG-TERM additional partners? I know that the permanent three-way partnership that my two guys and I live in is rather unique. Few others will even want to establish a long-term three-way relationship. Two-way "primary" partnerships with an occasional third person joining in just for the fun of it, that is the more typical threesome scene.
However, I have heard from a number of women who have opened themselves to an extra guy or gal in the sex life she shares with her husband or "significant other" on the premise that the extra person is also a friend or relative of one or both of them. I know women who have invited their sisters or college roommates into on-going threesome pleasures with their husbands or boyfriends and women who have welcomed on-going threesome relationships when the extra guy was a friend or brother of their husband or boyfriend. Some of these women have restricted their threesome ventures to one, two or three such friends or relatives and would not consider inviting a "stranger" into their bed.
When a close friend or relative is chosen and it works out, such relationships can often continue for years. As a matter of fact, they usually continue indefinitely, unless one of the parties proves to be a jerk, or unless circumstances change for one or more of the parties.
Other women absolutely refuse to consider inviting into their beds anyone who either she or her guy know or are related to. Everyone is different. Everyone has different circumstances
When a stranger is chosen, it can be a "one-night affair," or it could turn into an oft repeated pleasure for all. Sometimes couples start by intending things to be temporary or one-time events only to find that they have developed a new kind of friendship that they all wish to periodically repeat over a long-term period.
Finally: Keep in mind your own natural feminine tendencies. Most women equate great sexual fulfillment and the warmth of sexual sharing with emotions akin to love. That is why MOST women won't allow themselves to enjoy more than one man at a time.
I went through those emotions in the early years of my sexual development and particularly in the earliest experiences of enjoying more than one male partner during the same time period (even when it was not involving group sex). Men seem less likely to experience these sex=love feelings. Percentage wise, more men tend to be able to enjoy sex for itself and keep the pleasure of those experiences separate from their emotional relationships.
Once you have decided to open yourself to the pleasure-potentials of recreational sex, don't let yourself engage in qualitatively-comparing of your husband or significant other with the extra guy or guys. That could lead to fracturing of the more-fragile male ego!
Remember that your objective is: (1) To expand your capacity to enjoy two or more men at one time.
(2) To enhance the sharing relationship between you and your man.
(3) Develop a MUTUAL RESPECT between you and EACH of the other participants in your sex life.
(4) Your objective should be to gain a certain control over the situation, so you can enjoy experiencing threesome sex more often, and more when YOU want it. To accomplish these objectives, YOU MUST NOT ALLOW YOURSELF to develop any type of infatuation or admiration for "the extra guy, or guys."
You MUST do all you can to support your husband's (boy friend's) male ego and demonstrate your special love/feelings for him in a way that is above any "fondness" you may demonstrate for any other extra guy. That is, unless you happen to be as fortunate as me and have the two guys HARMONIOUSLY sharing your love. Mine is a very unique situation. There is NO jealousy between any of the three of us. But, it wasn't that way at the beginning.
Remember, the male ego can be a fragile thing. You can always express your appreciation for the variety the extra guy or gal brings into your primary relationship but don't EVER praise the other guy's cock or technique as being better or more fulfilling than your man's cock or technique.
Remember, first and foremost: ALL of your threesome experiences should be SHARED experiences which bring pleasure and an uplifting feeling to both you and your man. If it doesn't, it probably is not a good threesome experience!
If the other guy's cock is longer and feels good, tell your husband or boy friend that it feels good, but not better than when his cock is inside you. If the other guy's cock is extra thick, invite your guy to watch as it stretches you open while the other guy enters you. Then, hug your man tightly to you so he can share in the reactions of your body as you experience this extra fullness within you. Be sure he knows you enjoy this new experience, but that he is and always will be your number one lover.
Then, when the question comes up about a return session with this extra thick or extra long guy, let your husband (boy friend) be in charge of if and when. He MUST know that to you, he is clearly your primary attraction. In these situations, let him be (or seem to be) "in charge" of your threesome sex life. It is a way to assure him he is in NO WAY second rate to you! As sexist as it may sound, males often need this reinforcement of their sexuality and desirability to their women, even if it was they who initiated your shared venture into multiple-partner sex.
In spite of what I just said, you as a woman need to stay in charge of your sex life. If you reach a point where you feel that your man's ego may have been slightly fractured, do everything you have to do to reassure him of your love for him.
Then when his ego has healed, you need to ASSERT yourself, the sexual you. You need to let him know that your threesome experiences have taught you that you enjoy having two guys make love to you at the same time. And, you have discovered that you enjoy the variety of more than one sexual partner. God, I sure do!
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